If you are one of the lucky guys who’s best friend has decided to get married and he has made you the best man. A wedding speech is something very personal and is usually rich on stories and has a little humor thrown in as well. This guide will help you say the right things by pushing you in the right direction.
Before you actually get to the tweaking portion where you fine tune things, you need to sit and gather your thoughts. You should gather up the serious ones, the funny ones the ones about the groom, the ones about bride and the groom. You should shy away from anything that will be embarrassing for any of the people or groomsmen gifts involved.
There is no “traditional” format to writing this speech. Things to include should be how you got to know them, why they may have chosen you for the best man, you can interject some funny thoughts but remember, funny does not mean embarrassing. You want a subtle giggle and not a nervous laugh regarding bridesmaid gifts. You don’t want him wondering how far you are going to go into depth about some things that only you know and the bride to be doesn’t need to know.
Also, when it comes time to deliver the toast and the speech, it would be best advised to do so long before the alcohol starts to affect what you are saying and thinking. It is their day and a little too much bubbly can loosen lips and cause all sorts of things.
Remember the rules of speaking that you learned in school. You need a starting point, a middle section, and an end. When you are delivering it a good idea to as a little humor to make it interesting and enjoyable, and there needs to be a definite ending to the whole thing so that it doesn’t seem to drone on endlessly and become boring for you and the guests.
The other important thing to remember is that no matter how far off course or off topic you may get during the course of the speech, when you get to the ending or closing remarks, get back to the point at hand and get back to being serious about it. No one wants to think that the marriage or wedding accessories that they are embarking on is a joke.
So making a more traditional toast and well wishes at the end of the speech will tie the whole thing together, make you look like the right choice was made and will make it a memorable portion of the event, instead of a part that people want to try and forget.
Remember, you are the best man and not the groom so enhance the limelight for him and don’t try to steal it.